10 Advantages of Decluttering

Do not add storage, remove clutter. This was a statement that hit me hard while reading the blog of Decorator’s Voice.  I admit I am a hoarder but not the hopeless one.  So I decided that I should make time to declutter each room of the house. The road to decluttering was not an easy one but the advantages were WORTH IT.

  1. You finally have SPACE! All those junk are in the BIN. (FINALLY)

The house seems brighter, more spacious and cleaner! It looks like a model house from BETTER HOMES AND GARDENS. You can finally breathe because those old boxes are gone. The old pieces of furniture are now in the dump. The huge space can make you run and dance the ballet!

Photo by Timothy Buck

inhale… exhale…
  1. You realized that you are in denial about being a HOARDER, PAPYROPHILE and a MESS.

I had a hawk eye for garage sale signs way back.  Because it was so cheap, even if I really don’t need it, I ended up purchasing the item.  Garage sale items piled up at home and took precious space in our rented unit.

According to Merriam-Webster Online, Papyrophile means a person who loves paper. Are you the type of person who loves collecting magazines, brochures, paper bills and other items made of paper? Do you see them piling up? Then you are a papyrophile.

Decluttering made me see receipts way back in 2011. Oh, my goodness.

Photo by Simson Petrol

I still need these… eventually.

A messy house is a norm when living with children. However, when you notice that the clutter is taking over your house space and your sanity, it is time TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

The house becomes the reflection of the person living in it. I am still a work in progress in terms of organization but the status of the house looks better now compared to the previous years.

  1. According to my son, the family is TOGETHER when decluttering. It takes TEAMWORK to carry out a challenging household task.

This is where having 3 boys in the family becomes an advantage! Carrying heavy loads together makes the job easier. The family at work teaches unity, communication and patience (lots of it).

  1. At last, you have found the LONG LOST ________ ( Fill in the blank)  you have been looking for since time immemorial.

The other pair of the sock has been FOUND! It was between the wall and the bed. I kept blaming the washing machine for that! Sorry, but I secretly see the washing machine as a sock eater.

The photo that was taken out from the album because of a school project has been recovered. I do not have a digital copy of that photo so WHEW, remembrance of the event has been saved.

The T-shirt that I already forgot I bought a long time ago has finally seen the light of day! Sad to say, it is not my size anymore. *grumbling*

Photo by Roman Kraft

Family photos are treasures.
  1. You improve your I-AM-SO-ORGANIZED-PERSONALITY.

After decluttering, you tend to store the more important items by labeling them and not just throwing them in a box. Every family member knows where to put each item because there are labels.

It boosts your confidence because you have nailed decluttering LIKE A BOSS!

Photo by Brooke Lark

One good life choice – CHECK!
  1. You have the option to DONATE clothes or household items you no longer need but can still be used.

The hardest part in this is LETTING GO.  You see a T-SHIRT that became a part of something special in your life.  You no longer fit it but still can be used by others who are 2 sizes lower than you.(ouch) Being in denial of gaining weight is another story.

SMILE! You will make someone happy by the things you are GIVING.

  1. Imagine, there are visitors coming in 10 minutes! Never fear, you are already prepared!

Before: The horror of it all! Panic runs through your veins as you organize the living room where they will be staying.

After decluttering: The house is in clutter-free mode, you just prepare some refreshments as you wait for them or take a quick shower. Calmness… Peace… Being still… Heaven.

Photo by Taylor Grote

Ready to entertain… let the guests come.
  1. Your happiness scale goes UP.

You are taking good care of your well-being as a mum when you finally decide to declutter.


It becomes stressful to live in a messy house. Being a mum is already demanding. Adding a chaotic house can drive a mum’s patience to the limits.

The last thing you want is to wake up the HULK MUM MODE.

Photo by Peter Forster

The HULK MUM MODE is just waiting to come out… stepping on a Lego piece, an underwear on the floor, messy bedroom etc.
  1. It brings back MEMORIES – hopefully, the good ones.

– The photo screaming  WHAT-WERE-YOU-THINKING HAIR-DO?! I thought I was pretty with that hair-do.  *laughing*

– The blanket that was used by all the boys when they were still babies ( Time flies so fast.)

–  The dress that was a silent witness to special moments  ( Those were the days.)

–  The book that ignited enthusiasm for personal development  ( You had TIME to read!)

– The stuffed toy that you will not dare donate because of personal reasons  (Still a child at heart)

And many more…

Memories and decluttering are agents of change that can make you analyze your existence:  WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH YOUR LIFE?

  1. It strengthens your VIGILANCE to maintain the ORDER in the house.

In reality, the house will not always be a super-duper clean one, especially when living with children. It is bound to self-destruct after one day or (gasp!) 20 minutes. However, as a mum, it is part of the job description to remind the children to fix their bedroom or else…

Photo by Frida Bredesen

I SAW THAT! Please put it back where you got it.

It is of paramount importance to remember that you have to tell the children (the loving partner included) what you want. They are not mind-readers that can guess every time what you are thinking. Tell them explicitly what they can contribute so that the house can be:

a. always ( I wish)

b. often  (50-50)

c.  sometimes  (reality)     CLEAN and ORDERLY.

It is better than never tidy.

With consistency and follow-up with family members, the burden of doing everything will not be on your shoulders anymore.

It can do wonders for your face – happier, younger and more radiant. Believe me.

Photo by Artem Beliaikin

Relax, you have done well.


What are the 10 advantages of having sons?

“Have another child. Maybe it is a girl this time.” This is the top comment I always get from acquaintances and even friends. I am happy and grateful with my three sons so I am enumerating my ten advantages of having them.

  1. Fewer mood swings

During conversations, I often hear mothers complain about their daughter’s mood swings especially during that time of the month. When girls are young, they tend to fight for what they want. As if the mother and daughter are competing to be the queen bee of the house.  I cannot relate to this. With my sons, they also have their moments but not that nasty.

  1. Big help in carrying heavy loads

They are now a great help when we decide some things are better at the dumping site. Move the furniture. Bring the ladder here or there.  Put the luggage in the car. Help mum put the bags of groceries in the trolley. Assist mum in getting the groceries from the car to the house especially the 10 kg bag of rice!

three boys in a photo
The clothes are worth it. My sons don’t care if the clothes aren’t new!
  1. Hand-me-down clothes are the norm for having three boys in the family.

You can also have hand-me-down clothes with daughters too if the clothes are still in fashion. With my boys now, it is just simple fashion: t-shirt, shorts, jeans or pants. These staple items do not go out of style. The clothes could be worn for years.

  1. Bathroom use is a lot faster.

My son told me that when he was in camp, all the boys were ready while the girls were still in the bathrooms. At home, taking a shower and brushing teeth took 12 minutes.

Having sons is also good for the environment. They can pee at the same time.  Only one toilet flush is needed.

  1. Shopping is quick.

The boys are like men. When they go to the store, there must be a purpose why they should be there. If we are in a shopping center, we will buy socks, underwear and jeans.  Those are the goals then go home. We are finished in an hour.

My boys do not want to go shopping with me especially if they know I do not have anything particular to buy. They know by heart that one hour for me is not enough.

  1. Boys can carry on the family name.

I come from a culture where I changed my last name and used the last name of my husband when we got married. I do not know about my sons’ future but if they get married, our last name will go on.

three voys on air at the beach
T-shirts, shorts and good old running shoes.. done! Let’s go!
  1. Fewer expenses for accessories

I do not have to buy makeup, bra, sanitary pads and accessories like necklaces to match the clothes.

  1. Boys don’t get pregnant.

I overheard conversations were the parents stalked their daughter while on a date because of fear the couple might do something irresponsible.  The fear is real and it is more intense with raising girls.

You might tell me that the boys might get someone pregnant. Yes, that is another issue. I am scared out of my wits.

  1. Aside from my husband, I have another male’s point of view three times.

Men and women think differently.  I was telling my sons“ I was just looking at the goods.” They all started giggling. “ Mum, it sounds so wrong. Looking at the goods. Hahaha.”

I was thinking about the store items and the boys were thinking about private parts.

Sometimes it is interesting to learn how boys think because it gives me a fresh perspective about what is going on in their heads.

  1. I have the power to raise loving men.

World news is filled with bad representatives of the male species. I could make a difference to society by trying my very best to raise loving, loyal, respectful, resilient, disciplined and productive male citizens. They will be future dads, husbands, uncles, friends, workers, colleagues, volunteers or possibly even the boss. Who knows? I am not a perfect mum and still learning lessons along the way. Getting all the help I need is what I will do.

mother and three boys in front of a large temple
I hope and pray I am raising them right.. so help me God.

How about you?  What are the benefits of having sons?