Family and friends are great especially in times of difficulties. On the other hand, there are times I choose to be alone. Here are my thoughts about the advantages of choosing to be alone (for a while) during a crisis.
1. The silence is bliss.
When problems come like a tsunami, silence for me is a must. It can be sitting alone in the room, going for a walk in the park or sitting near the beach. The stillness calms my mind.
2. There is an option not to talk.
Concerned family and friends will come over especially when they truly feel what I am going through. Sometimes, when the issue is confusing, it is better to be quiet about it.. at first. Moreover, when the experience is too painful, words may come out which I will regret saying.
3. The internal dialogue starts kicking in.
Depending upon the dilemma, the mind will sometimes reveal the possible solutions. Well-meaning friends may offer advice but it is better when you can talk with them about your OWN ideas after being alone for a while. Depending solely on someone’s ideas may prevent the capability to think for oneself.
4. No one is judging you when you cry.
After telling everyone that I need personal space, there is the freedom to cry. There are tons of wet tissues on the bed due to bitter tears shed over a particular problem. I can win an Oscar award after the drama!
5. Praying is an activity suddenly remembered.
I am not a deeply religious person but in times of crisis, the words “Lord, Please help me.” suddenly comes out of my mouth. Then, the song of Don Moen “God will make a way” becomes a mantra.
6. It gives an opportunity to write.
Writing becomes a source of outlet for some people. It becomes free therapy because no one is judging what you are writing. All thoughts and feelings are poured out. No holds barred. Reading what you wrote gives a new perspective or even an idea in dealing with the issue.
7. Walking alone is exercise.
Some people are good problem solvers while walking. As long as they are not forgetting to stay safe, this is an advantage.
8. Enjoying one’s company can be explored in the privacy of one’s room or house.
Hmmm.. it could be watching movies, funny videos on YouTube or even the episodes of a favourite show. Listening to music that perks me up or an inspirational audio that uplifts my moods are good choices.
Singing, dancing, redecorating the bedroom,doing my manicure and pedicure, cooking and baking are also alternatives. Diverting one’s mind about the problem for a while lessens the stress.
9. It reconnects you with nature.
A lovely garden is sometimes made by someone who decided to enjoy his/her own company away from the noise of the crowd. Removing the weeds, watering the vegetables and planting a new set of flowers are activities that give peace to some. Sorry, I don’t have a green thumb but I have 4 potted plants now!
10. Visiting places not part of your routine can recharge the mind.
A road trip is another alternative for those people who love to drive. Admiring the architectural design of a building, observing the exhibits of a shop, snooping around the store you finally decided to see and appreciating natural wonders are activities that invigorate the mind because it was not part of the schedule.
However, these advantages are only good temporarily. No man is an island. Talking to someone trustworthy is still the best during a crisis.